Thursday, November 21, 2013
Often times we may find it difficult to see pass the pain....You and I may not have the same pain...I mostly deal with physical pain due to health issues but on today I refuse to focus on even though it is so real and present. You may deal with the same type of pain or you may have emotional pain due to heart break....but today as this is the Season of Thanks....let us just take a few minutes to reflect on the good in our lives and all the many blessing that have been bestowed on us and our families. Now just take a few minutes to just Breathe.....GOD IS GOOD ALL BY HIMSELF....He gives us life....He supplies all our needs...
When you go about your day today...Do not forget to take a moment to just look around and observe how the season is changing...The trees colors are so beautiful and a sign that the seasons are changing. Just as the trees are a sign of the changes, reflect over your life and your situation look for the signs and signals in your life that a change is coming to your situation. Make sure you are in tune with God and what he is doing right now in your life and prepare for the change...Do not let your season pass you by for it had been set for an appointed time.
So just be thankful today as it is Thankful Thursday....Oh give thanks unto The Lord for he is good: for His mercy endureth for ever! Psalms 136:1
Tuesday, November 12, 2013
So it's been a little when since my last post.....I am trying to get back in to doing my regular activities...most days it's not easy, but I try my best to maintain a positive attitude. Most of all I trust God and know where my help comes from... I heard something today put the facts where your faith are....I am always looking for a word into my situation and also and avenue to share because I know that is someone that is worse off then me....
Today, I also want to share a article that I found to help increase your personal happiness..
I did not write this article. I am only sharing as I thought these were some good tips for people like yes show deal either physical pain and discomfort where the simple things in life become a chore and one feels they can no longer find pleasure!
Happy reading retrieved from the HuffPost. Hope these tools and research will help you on your journey to feeling better and as always before any new routines or changes, address your concerns with your MD for appropriate feedback..
10 Simple Things You Can Do Today That Will Make You Happier, Backed By Science
The groups were then tested six months later to assess their relapse rate. Of those who had taken the medication alone, 38 percent had slipped back into depression. Those in the combination group were doing only slightly better, with a 31 percent relapse rate. The biggest shock, though, came from the exercise group: Their relapse rate was only 9 percent!You don't have to be depressed to gain benefit from exercise, though. It can help you to relax, increase your brain power and even improve your body image, even if you don't lose any weight.
Body weight, shape and body image were assessed in 16 males and 18 females before and after both 6 × 40 mins exercise and 6 × 40 mins reading. Over both conditions, body weight and shape did not change. Various aspects of body image, however, improved after exercise compared to before.
Negative stimuli get processed by the amygdala; positive or neutral memories gets processed by the hippocampus. Sleep deprivation hits the hippocampus harder than the amygdala. The result is that sleep-deprived people fail to recall pleasant memories, yet recall gloomy memories just fine.
Using a face recognition task, here we demonstrate an amplified reactivity to anger and fear emotions across the day, without sleep. However, an intervening nap blocked and even reversed this negative emotional reactivity to anger and fear while conversely enhancing ratings of positive (happy) expressions.
Researchers found that employees' moods when they clocked in tended to affect how they felt the rest of the day. Early mood was linked to their perceptions of customers and to how they reacted to customers' moods.
... while many voluntary conditions don't affect our happiness in the long term because we acclimate to them, people never get accustomed to their daily slog to work because sometimes the traffic is awful and sometimes it's not. Or as Harvard psychologist Daniel Gilbert put it, "Driving in traffic is a different kind of hell every day."
Two Swiss economists who studied the effect of commuting on happiness found that such factors could not make up for the misery created by a long commute.
We are happy when we have family, we are happy when we have friends and almostall the other things we think make us happy are actually just ways of getting more family and friends.
In an interview in the March 2008 newsletter to the Grant Study subjects, Vaillant was asked, "What have you learned from the Grant Study men?" Vaillant's response: "That the only thing that really matters in life are your relationships to other people."
The men's relationships at age 47, he found, predicted late-life adjustment better than any other variable, except defenses. Good sibling relationships seem especially powerful: 93 percent of the men who were thriving at age 65 had been close to a brother or sister when younger.
Using the British Household Panel Survey, I find that an increase in the level of social involvements is worth up to an extra £85,000 a year in terms of life satisfaction. Actual changes in income, on the other hand, buy very little happiness.
We figured that if a Terman participant sincerely felt that he or she had friends and relatives to count on when having a hard time then that person would be healthier. Those who felt very loved and cared for, we predicted, would live the longest.
Making time to go outside on a nice day also delivers a huge advantage; one study found that spending 20 minutes outside in good weather not only boosted positive mood, but broadened thinking and improved working memory...
Being outdoors, near the sea, on a warm, sunny weekend afternoon is the perfect spot for most. In fact, participants were found to be substantially happier outdoors in all natural environments than they were in urban environments.
...when researchers interviewed more than 150 people about their recent purchases, they found that money spent on activities--such as concerts and group dinners out--brought far more pleasure than material purchases like shoes, televisions, or expensive watches. Spending money on other people, called "prosocial spending," also boosts happiness.
Participants recalled a previous purchase made for either themselves or someone else and then reported their happiness. Afterward, participants chose whether to spend a monetary windfall on themselves or someone else. Participants assigned to recall a purchase made for someone else reported feeling significantly happier immediately after this recollection; most importantly, the happier participants felt, the more likely they were to choose to spend a windfall on someone else in the near future.
Shortly after the fall of the Berlin Wall but before the German reunion, the first wave of data of the GSOEP was collected in East Germany. Volunteering was still widespread. Due to the shock of the reunion, a large portion of the infrastructure of volunteering (e.g. sports clubs associated with firms) collapsed and people randomly lost their opportunities for volunteering. Based on a comparison of the change in subjective well-being of these people and of people from the control group who had no change in their volunteer status, the hypothesis is supported that volunteering is rewarding in terms of higher life satisfaction.
...we scientists have found that doing a kindness produces the single most reliable momentary increase in well-being of any exercise we have tested.
A new study led by a Michigan State University business scholar suggests customer-service workers who fake smile throughout the day worsen their mood and withdraw from work, affecting productivity. But workers who smile as a result of cultivating positive thoughts - such as a tropical vacation or a child's recital - improve their mood and withdraw less.
Smiling makes us feel good which also increases our attentional flexibility and our ability to think holistically. When this idea was tested by Johnson et al. (2010), the results showed that participants who smiled performed better on attentional tasks which required seeing the whole forest rather than just the trees.
Smiling is one way to reduce the distress caused by an upsetting situation. Psychologists call this the facial feedback hypothesis. Even forcing a smile when we don't feel like it is enough to lift our mood slightly (this is one example of embodied cognition).
In the study, the effect of vacation anticipation boosted happiness for eight weeks.
One study found that people who just thought about watching their favorite movie actually raised their endorphin levels by 27 percent.
In one study, a research team from Massachusetts General Hospital looked at the brain scans of 16 people before and after they participated in an eight-week course in mindfulness meditation. The study, published in the January issue of Psychiatry Research: Neuroimaging, concluded that after completing the course, parts of the participants' brains associated with compassion and self-awareness grew, and parts associated with stress shrank.
Studies show that in the minutes right after meditating, we experience feelings of calm and contentment, as well as heightened awareness and empathy. And, research even shows that regular meditation can permanently rewire the brain to raise levels of happiness.
The gratitude-outlook groups exhibited heightened well-being across several, though not all, of the outcome measures across the 3 studies, relative to the comparison groups. The effect on positive affect appeared to be the most robust finding. Results suggest that a conscious focus on blessings may have emotional and interpersonal benefits.
Participants included 219 men and women who wrote three letters of gratitude over a 3 week period.
Researchers, including the authors, have found that older people shown pictures of faces or situations tend to focus on and remember the happier ones more and the negative ones less.
Sunday, October 27, 2013
Though the days have not always been easy....It is very important to keep up with the things that matter the most...I have been trying to get back to the normal hussel of life, but it has been a chore...With each day there are new challenges that I must over come but I am very thankful for each new day....I tell myself that even with the pain, I am still here to see my family and my children and that is a blessing in it's self....It could be worse....so still I smile....on thus past Sunday we out as a family after service and took a few pictures as Saturday was our Anniversary. Each day I activate my faith and trust God to get me through the tough times and trust him to get me to the Brighter Days as I know that Brighter Days are ahead !
My daughters' had to assist in getting the shots that I am about to share...Special Shout out girls!
Monday, October 7, 2013
It has been five weeks since my surgery and the recovery is sure but slow coming....I had my appointment on Thursday and my doctor stated that I was progressing as scheduled. I asked him several questions to get a better understanding on the changes that my body may be going through as the result of the I cave procedure that I had (Full Abdominal Hysterectomy). I was advised to go ahead and give the Hormone Replacement Therapy (HRT). I was kinda hesitant, but agreed to go ahead for a month to see how it works out for me. So before leaving the doctor's office I was given some samples of the medication ( Minivelle) that am now to add to my daily regimen that is supposed to do what my body is no longer able to do on it own, which is hard for me to know as in the past everything was working in my words as "normal" so know I have to wait and see what changes I will be going through or not going through.
MINIVELLE® (estradiol transdermal system) is a prescription medicine patch that contains estradiol (an estrogen hormone). MINIVELLE is used to treat moderate to severe hot flashes due to menopause.
The questions that I know get from family and friends is , how do you feel? Can you tell a difference in your pain? They are referring to surgery pain and fibromyalgia pain? I find myself lost for words and not knowing how to respond to the question as I continue to struggle with controlling the pain from my recent surgery and spend most my time lying in bed to help me to feel better an not focus on what all my body is dealing with...
I am trying to wean myself off the pain medication as I do not want to have to need them to be able to get around on a day to day basis. I already take enough stuff in my opinion to deal with the fibromyalgia.
Tuesday, October 1, 2013
Sunday, September 29, 2013
Been away for awhile, but not ever really gone...the Dream of one day not having any physical pain may seem far fetched and like that of something thing hat may not ever happen. Well in the past three weeks I have had to continue to "Dream Big" and "Hope" for some long awaited relief. September 6th, I entered the hospital room at about 5:15 am in the morning for a scheduled surgery. Not really knowing the outcome, I went in with the belief that things would some how be different for me. The unknown always brig about fear. So as I was preparing my mind for my surgery. It was very apparent in the preparation room that I was experiencing heighten anxiety and increased pain as my blood pressure was off the charts.....The doctors and the nurses were at odds on what to do and told me if " we don't get your pressure down and stable, we will not be able to perform your surgery today. It's just not safe. I had to give it to God and Trust him...Because it was now the time for me to finally experience some relief so that I can live. So with my Husband and Leaders by my side, we went in to Prayer and about 5 hours later. I woke up in recovery and my surgery was complete and they were telling me that the procedure went well. I was know really on my "Road" to recovery. It was great feeling to just wake and for a Blessing to see all my family and friends that were there waiting and believing with me that my "Change" was about to come. I am not really sure what really lies ahead. But I am certain that I will feel much better as my healing comes and I keep a positive attitude and a good support system to help me to deal with the transitions of life. For a great number of years, I have dealt with being a lot of physical pain from the diagnosis of Fibromyalgia as well as Endometriosis and with my total hysterectomy life I sure to be very different. Which is a whole different subject that will be addressed in later posts. (Endometriosis (en-doe-me-tree-O-sis) is an often painful disorder in which tissue that normally lines the inside of your uterus — the endometrium — grows outside your uterus (endometrial implant). Endometriosis most commonly involves your ovaries, bowel or the tissue lining your pelvis. Rarely, endometrial tissue may spread beyond your pelvic region).
Have you or anyone you know suffered from Endometriosis and Fibromyalgia reported any relief after having surgery.....
Have you or anyone you know suffered from Endometriosis and Fibromyalgia reported any relief after having surgery.....
Tuesday, July 16, 2013
Life and death is in the power of the tongue. Many of us do not realize that we can bring about stressors in our lives by worrying to much...Did you know that fear was the same things as worry. Did you know that worry and anxiety increases daily stressors that affect your ability to cope with everyday life. The more you talk about "nays's and no's" in life the more you increase your level of stress which I turn has a negative affect on you and those persons around you. God has not given us the spirit of fear. He has made provisions for our need and we do not have to worry about anything. Sometimes this is easier said than done when it feels like somebody just pulled the rug from under you...
At this point, I could go into details of my wows and troubles and fears but not tonight....I am writing to inspire and uplift. I am believing and decreeing that it's already done. My desire is to help you to get through what you may be dealing with by knowing that we have a refugee in God and a peace that surpasses all understanding when you give it to him...no matter what you may be dealing with he is greater than and storm or situation. If you just think back over your life and where he has already done for you and your family and friends you can find PEACE and know that he won't put more on you than you can bare. He won't leave you without a witness and a testimony.... We should never question God but we most definitely need to take our FAITH to another level and trust him... We say we trust him but we still have fear ( worry/anxiety )
Let's go to the read and read the scripture below:
Psalm 27:1-5 KJV
 The Lord is my light and my salvation; whom shall I fear? the Lord is the strength of my life; of whom shall I be afraid?  When the wicked, even mine enemies and my foes, came upon me to eat up my flesh, they stumbled and fell.  Though an host should encamp against me, my heart shall not fear: though war should rise against me, in this will I be confident.  One thing have I desired of the Lord , that will I seek after; that I may dwell in the house of the Lord all the days of my life, to behold the beauty of the Lord , and to enquire in his temple.  For in the time of trouble he shall hide me in his pavilion: in the secret of his tabernacle shall he hide me; he shall set me up upon a rock.
God is our Covering and he will hide us in the midst of the storm: Rest knowing that he has made provision for an appointed time. No matter what it looks like or (for me )feel like right now-Trust God.....keep your praise...Praise confuses the enemy!
Fibromyalgia is chronic widespread pain that affect many....stress increases symptoms- Fibro fact if your or a family member is suffering with the invisible illness seek a consult with your primary care doctor for your medical needs and further assessment for proper diagnosis and treatment